How Can I Make friends If I Have Social Anxiety
Social anxiety is a very real problem that prevents many people from engaging socially. In fact, the National Institute for Clinical Excellence (NICE) says that social anxiety is among the most common anxiety disorders right now. If you suffer from social anxiety, you might be wondering how you could ever make new friends. It is hard, but it can be done. Below are some suggestions for making new friends.
Start with Similar People
Meeting new people is always difficult. You struggle because you are afraid of what they might think of you. This is normal and natural. One way to work through it is to begin by seeking out people who are similar to you. Starting with people who are similar to you gives you something in common, something you can talk about. You can spend your first couple of meet-ups sticking to topics relevant to your shared interest.
Take Advantage of the Internet
The internet can be a juxtaposition for people with social anxiety. On the one hand is the temptation to live on the internet so as to avoid face-to-face social interaction. On the other hand, the internet is a great resource for meeting people also suffering from social anxiety.
Aspiring Butterfliez are a networking community that is specifically aimed for people with social anxiety. Meeting new friends online in your local area that are in similar situations to you. Finding local group meet-ups, and sharing interests. This will probably seem like too much of a struggle and extremely stressful at first, but meeting like minded people will definitely boost your confidence putting your anxiety more at ease and being more comfortable with one an other. Look for local groups. If you can find a couple of groups in your own area of interest, check the website for times and dates of local meetups.
Look For Less Stressful Situations
Making new friends requires getting out and about. Unfortunately, social anxiety can be made worse when you find yourself in an unfamiliar environment. You can help yourself in this regard by looking for less stressful opportunities that are not likely to involve those things that stress you out the most. Everyone has their own fears. One persons fear may not be the same as the other and you may be able to help each other out in these situations.
Regardless of the mechanisms you use to meet new people, start small. In other words, do not try and become best friends with a dozen people all at once. Put your energies into one or two people that you really seem to connect with. Developing stronger relationships with fewer people will do more to ease your social anxiety than trying to maintain casual relationships with dozens of people.
Making new friends as someone with social anxiety is a matter of getting out there and practising. Hopefully the tips presented in this post provide a good starting point for you. Please know that you can do this. Talk to others in similar situations and don’t be afraid of how you feel.
Please note that some of these suggestions may not work for you. Also note that you will find making new friends easier if you are already being treated by your GP for your social anxiety.